No, Yesterday’s Post Wasn’t A “Humble Brag” & Other Thoughts
Yesterday I wrote a post titled I Fear I Am Addicted To Travel & That Isn’t A Good Thing. Most of the response was overall positive and we had a lot of discussion about it. The best thing about it was that I realized I am not alone in this feeling. I also hope others realized they are not alone in feeling similar things as well.
There of course was a little bit of negativity surrounding the post, especially on Facebook – ah the joys of social media! So I wanted to address some of those comments and share some of the better reader comments that I saw as well. To be honest most of them were awesome but I picked out a few to share. I also feel kind of how I did with the why I will never travel to the Maldives post and its follow up post. I think the comments and discussion helped me clarify my points just like it happened with those two posts.
First off I wanted to address some of the negative comments I saw and respond to them.
The first one went along the lines that the post was simply a humble brag. To be honest I feared it may come across this way since I am blessed to be able to travel a lot. I think anyone that reads the site knows that isn’t how I am and that the post came from a good place. I was trying to be honest and share some of my worries that are usually swept under the rug in this hobby. If it didn’t come across that way then I apologize for that but it was intended to spark a discussion about the dark side of travel.
The other one I wanted to address was on that caught me off guard. Someone on Facebook said they wouldn’t want to be on the road with me while driving a rental car when exhausted. I honestly have no idea where it came from but maybe others read it that way too? There was a follow up comment that I could be putting my kids in danger driving while exhausted. When I said I was exhausted I meant at the end of the day when you get home and you are beat. I am not going through my day to day motions half asleep and to be honest I avoid renting cars as much as possible. Travel leads to fatigue and stress from time changes, dehydration and cramming a lot into a short period. But it has never gotten to the point I couldn’t fully function.
Disagreeing With Someone Is Not Attacking Them
Lastly I wanted to comment about a trend that I have noticed. I often ask for discussion and comments. But just because you comment doesn’t mean I won’t respond to your thoughts. That will happen whether I agree with them or not. And if I disagree I will share with you why I disagree. It is called a debate. I will never attack you personally because that is not what we are looking for and I would expect the same courtesy. Offering a differing viewpoint or debating your point is not attacking you, it is debating you. If you want to leave your opinion but don’t expect a response then why leave it in the first place? Debate leads to better understanding and personal growth. It shows differing viewpoints. I am ashamed to say that doesn’t seem to be the way of the world any longer.
Sharing Other’s Comments
Here are some comments that I thought were pretty great and I wanted to share them with you.
Up first is Jeff’s comment that talks about the other costs associated with travel:
Jenn with some great insights:
Lynn talking about losing some of the joy that she used to have:
Nichole talking about using our skill set which can be good and bad:
Shawna also bringing up how sometimes we find ourselves dreading even amazing trips:
Thank you for all of the great comments everyone. I encourage you to read everyone’s on the original post. All of them are great even the negative ones 😁.
Clarifying My Point
After writing about this subject and discussing it with many others what does it boil down to? I think Jenn said it best, it is accepting that just because we CAN do something does not mean we HAVE to.
There are many times I look at the calendar and see an open weekend and think to myself, I should be going somewhere. Why would I spend a perfectly good weekend at home when I could take the kids to Florida to see my parents etc? But let me tell you that is is OKAY to just stay at home.
I think we often create FOMO in this hobby. With the Facebook Groups and private chat channels etc. plus meet ups we are always sharing our amazing trips. And that is awesome, I love that, but I think it creates longing, FOMO and overall jealousy as well. One example is that I think people will sometimes take longer flights simply to fly products they have not flown before to try to fit in. They will also stay in less convenient hotels because it is where “everyone” stays etc. There is an undercurrent of one upping each other in this hobby. I don’t think it comes from a bad place but it is there. We count how many different business class products we have flown and how many countries we have visited etc.
Do What Makes You Happy
I am here to tell you WHO CARES! It is okay to do you. Go where you want, see what you want, travel how you want to travel. If others judge you for it that is on them. If you want to stay home for 3 months then do it! Don’t be afraid to go back to the same place 3-4 times if it makes you happy. Most importantly we can’t let our lust for experiences drive our decisions. It is okay to step back and enjoy the simple things too.
That is what I am fighting for myself. There is joy in simplicity just like there is joy in seeing the extraordinary. I am searching for that balance and I hope that I am able to find it. Admitting that I need to work on it is the first step.
I don’t know if this made my points clearer or more convoluted but I hope it is the former. If you take nothing else away from this post I will reiterate that just because we can travel doesn’t mean we have to. If you are starting to lose some of the joy or awe that travel used to inspire then taking a step back may be the best thing. Finding balance in life is key!
As always safe travels on your next trip, whenever it may be 😉.