If Family Travel Is Too Hard You’re Doing It All Wrong!
Growing up my family pretty much only took one type of vacation. I lived in the Los Angeles area from when I was born until I turned 11. During that time we would go on vacation a couple of times each year. The destination? Las Vegas!
The astute reader probably noticed that I live in Las Vegas, so where did we go on vacation once we moved to our vacation destination? Well, we didn’t really. The occasional trip back to SoCal happened, but with a lot of family issues going on, I pretty much stayed in Vegas and went to school. I found myself on my own at 16 and with an 8 month old baby boy, a wife and a contract on a brand new home by my 19th birthday. Today that 8 month old baby in a tux at our wedding is 18 years old and so is our marriage.
Seeing The World – Kid In Tow
Since many readers know my story, I’ll fast forward a few years to when my son was six and I had a revelation that we could travel around the world. So we did. Yes, there was agony over the decision to leave and months of planning including the selling of that house, but we did it and we haven’t stopped traveling as a family (including with our new baby girl now toddler Ellie) since.
It All Started On The Road
So why the heck do people make it so hard? One of my great joys in life has been the road trip. I guess it all started when I was a kid on those SoCal to Vegas trips, but since then I have driven a lot. That initial 18 month around the world trip in 2007-2008 started with 3 months and 15K miles around the U.S. and I really haven’t stopped driving since.
But there is one thing I have noticed when it comes to driving and traveling in general. People make it too hard! For example, I see a 4 hour road trip much differently than others. For my family it is just a matter of throwing a few things together and hitting the road, especially when in the United States. It should be so easy, but ends up being so hard for most. I have literally watched family friends pack for Armageddon before they get in the car for a short road trip.
And this hurts your children. They learn from your ways and before you know it the simple road trip is a spectacle. The kids are stressed out and suddenly the car ride isn’t fun. They need snacks, they need drinks, they need to pee every 5 minutes. I have driven TENS OF THOUSANDS OF MILES with young children and I can assure you they don’t need to pee that often. If you make travel complicated the kids will too. Then they’ll grow up to repeat the cycle or even to hate travel. Or at least that’s my opinion.
Take The Leap
What isn’t an opinion (well it is but it’s an important one) is that you should take your kids to travel. This site is about helping people travel well beyond their means, but even if you can’t afford much, your children need to have their eyes and minds opened. This isn’t a political post for many reasons, but mainly because I don’t believe in force feeding your own beliefs on your children. Show them the world in varying degrees as they grow and they’ll form their own beliefs. I no longer needed to relay to my son how horrible the Holocaust was for example, because he felt it deep within his bones when visiting Auschwitz and elsewhere.
Yes, that might be a bit dark, but it is all real. What is also real are the thousands of positive and memorable experiences that also shape children’s beliefs. Anecdotally I have found children who travel to have more perspective and empathy compared to those who sit at home with the excesses of American culture thrown at them day and night without any alternate perspective. Don’t get me wrong. I’m American. I love America. I love American culture. It’s just that the world doesn’t end on our doorstep.
I am writing this as I sit at the end of an 18 hour flight with my 3 year old daughter. I have covered that flight on this site and have played a little tongue and cheek about how disastrous it could be, but the truth is I wasn’t ever worried. For me an 18 hour flight to Singapore is less of a thing than a simple drive down the road for many. What a shame.